It seems increasingly common today for people unhappy with life or their situation to BLAME – Because Losers Always Make Excuses. This seems just as true in people’s personal lives as it is in politics.
Even many “successful” people with “positive” attitudes seem to BLAME those not as “successful” as they are for not assuming “responsibility” – for their values, choices, actions, and results (apparently assuming we all have complete, or at least considerable, control over our options and outcomes).
If our Emergency Medical System thought like this, then very few would ever be helped. Those in need of “outside assistance” obviously “failed” to prevent their illnesses or injuries – and don’t seem to be taking “full responsibility” to care for themselves (on their own). If their lives were “important enough” to them, shouldn’t they regain consciousness, start breathing, and stop bleeding on their own? Many people “treated” for a “complaint” don’t even (ever) pay at all, let alone in advance, for the “aid” they seek, need, and receive (first).
None of us may be “entitled” to anything in life, yet why deny those in need?
ALL of us benefit(ed) from and REQUIRE(D) input and assistance from others (often on an ongoing basis throughout our lives). Often the best way to help ourselves is to help others – who may not even know what they really need.
Those who BLAME put those who merely complain to shame. The BLAME Game is usually one in which no one can win. Excuses and finger-pointing tends to result in lose-lose-lose for all. Affixing BLAME doesn’t fix problems.
Whatever perceived problems exist always seem to be someone else’s fault (as if the person blaming had no more responsibility than for an earthquake). The only solution or action proposed to change things is usually to punish or get rid of the individual(s) or group accused of being “accountable” for all ills, errors, injustices, and inequities. Being “responsible” does NOT mean simply assuming or being assigned credit or BLAME; it means the ability to respond.
The best response is NOT to affix BLAME (especially elsewhere), but simply change, correct, and/or fix what we can, as best we can, whenever we can.
To WIN, reach out, respond, and help others – and do whatever you can, whenever you can, for whomever you can, to make the world better for all.
That’s my perspective. What’s yours?
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