Are you insane or just crazy (enough to succeed)?

Insanity is often defined as doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results – and yet success often depends on doing something (well) long enough for desirable results to manifest.

Insanity or just patience? Perhaps some of both is needed for “success”. Read more »

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Keeping A Positive Eye On Others

“Everything is energy” – but clearly not all energy is the same. This is a good, given “negative” talk about a supposed “energy crisis”. Read more »

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Making a Difference

“Each day when I awake I know I have one more day to make a difference in someone’s life”

Wanting one’s life to matter and make a positive difference (recognized and appreciated by others) is probably among most people’s deepest desires. Read more »

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20/20 Vision and Still Blind?

Each of us has our own perspective: a different vantage point and a unique perception and interpretation. There are things we can see that others cannot – and there are things that others can see, often quite clearly, that we cannot. Read more »

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Each of us is a Teacher

Each of us is a teacher (whether we realize it or not) – and it’s our duty to teach and share what we know. That’s our “job”. Don’t shoot the messenger! Read more »

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Life Is A Habit

Our health, wealth, and happiness are a result of our habits. The word “habit” originally meant an article of clothing – and we still use it that way when referring to a nun’s costume or the attire worn while riding horses.

Like our clothing, our habits identify, express, and cover every aspect of our lives. Read more »

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Which Station Are YOU Tuned Into?

You’ve probably heard that “everything is energy” and that “where attention goes, energy flows”, but you may not be aware of just how important different (pulsating) electromagnetic frequencies are to life. Much of that energy is flowing through space (directly and as a result of reflection, refraction, or diffraction) in electromagnetic waves.

Our bodies are like antennas that allow us to “tune in” to the station(s) of our choice. Our ability to choose allow us to accept some signals and reject others from the many broadcasts we can receive.

Broadcasting originally referred to planting seeds. If we are not careful about what we allow to take root, we may later have difficulty ridding ourselves of it. Read more »

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The Juice Within: What’s Inside Me

When you squeeze, stress, or apply pressure to something (or someone), you often find out what’s inside: the “juice within”. Sometimes, what you get is what you expect; sometimes, it’s a surprise. The only way to know for sure what something (or someone) is made of – without taking them apart – is to apply a little pressure and see what kind of response you get. I don’t mean pushing people’s buttons for no reason, but no one really knows what they can, or cannot, handle (or how) until put in the situation. Despite what they may think, few people really know how they will react or what they are (or are not) capable of until “put to the test” – when and where it counts (the most). Read more »

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The Energy You Send Out Is What You Get Back

Are you sending out to GIVE or to GET?

What we are thinking about and how it makes us feel is what we get back. You can focus on what you don’t want or focus on what you do want. It’s the feelings that create the energy we send out. Reality is nothing more than the result of how we have been flowing our energy. We do not have to face-up or put up with anything. All we have to do is learn to flow our energy differently. Read more »

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Do You Have A Deficit Relationship?

There is a lot of talk today about “deficits” (and what is perceived and proclaimed as “lacking”, or “not enough”, in some way). Most people are aware of a growing “budget deficit” and increasing “attention deficit”. But, is there really a deficit (problem) at all – or just a difficulty in our default definition, distribution, and allocation of assets and resources?
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Don’t shoot the messenger

Consider the source less important than the truth, importance, and/or relevance of what is shared. Far too often people pay more attention to the messenger than the message or how something is said rather than what is (or is not) said – with social “status” and style seeming to matter more than substance.

Credibility and trust are often extended or withheld upon irrelevant criteria. Read more »

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Gun Problem? Or Social Connection Issue?

The United States of America has a “gun problem” – but not the one most people (around the world) seem to think and talk about.

That Americans and the rest of the world seems focused on school shootings and semi-automatic rifles seems particularly odd since there are far more dangerous weapons than guns; that most gun violence is with handguns; and that the greatest threats and harm done in U.S. schools (and society in general) has nothing to do with any kind of firearm. NO gun is even needed if someone wishes to harm (many, quickly, badly).

Far more Americans are also killed and harmed by MANY other causes that ALL gun-related incidents combined. Yet, it is almost ONLY guns that anyone seems to focus on. Calls for regulation and control and confiscation and banning are always and only directed at responsible LAW-ABIDING citizens and companies. NO law will have ANY effect on those who disregard and/or do not comply with laws – which often seems to include those who make laws and those who selectively enforce them.

What is the true purpose of our schools – and the desired role of teachers? What kind of culture and inevitable outcomes are we creating – now and in future – from the choices we make? ARE they likely to be those we DESIRE – or to even more likely result in the OPPOSITE? What roles and responsibilities do students, parents, government, and the society as a whole have?

Arming school teachers and security guards and/or pretending to stop, screen, and search everyone is NOT likely to make ANY place “safer” – for or from anyone.

Has ANYONE considered that arming teachers makes guns available to those seeking to use them to harm others who might not otherwise be able to get them into areas where they are used? Or that that it puts “good guys with guns” at risk of being shot and killed by police (who typically only respond AFTER rather than ever PREVENT potential problems before they become problems)?

Police in the United States shoot, kill, and wound far more people, often unarmed and almost always WITHOUT NEEDING TO, than have ALL of the mass murders in the “media”.

Most police in the United States (at federal, state, county, and municipal levels) have stopped being PEACE officers and problem-solvers and have become heavily-armed Law EnFORCEment officers and revenue collectors – who often seem far less able to NOT shoot people who are NOT a threat than thousands of U.S. Marines and soldiers have for many years proven is possible in far more stressful and dangerous urban combat situations than most police officers will EVER encounter.

MORE than any other aspect of society itself, there NEEDS to be FIRST be a change in the expectations, training, equipping, and Rules of Engagement for POLICE (who TOO often seem to be the MOST fearful members of society – and the MOST likely to use one or more of the many weapons they typically carry. A less violent society is probably NOT possible as long as the POLICE are armed and quick to use force – and our “justice system” is based on revenge, retaliation, and retribution rather than restitution, reparation, restoration, and reconciliation.

Our “legal system” has almost NO role NOR concern for victims, offenders, or “justice”. Crimes are determined by, and considered against, the State – and adversarial prosecution and defense is exclusively by lawyers. Judges and juries far outnumber mediators and arbitrators – and individuals and groups are almost never ALLOWED (any way) to resolve disputes, death, destruction, damage, displacement, disability, or discrimination on their own. The emphasis on payment to and punishment by government almost never helps victims heal, changes offenders’ lives, or makes communities safer for anyone – and often makes them more dangerous.

Harsher sentencing does NOT deter or reduce crime or violence NOR result in greater safety, peace, and harmony! MORE people are locked up behind bars in the United States than anywhere else in the world – including countries with far larger populations and more repressive governments! Incarceration of offenders seldom results in anyone’s responsibility or rehabilitation – just likelihood of recidivism – nor does it usually in any way compensate, benefit, or heal victims, survivors, or society as a whole. So many people work in the “criminal justice system” in the United States that if those 2.3 million were all put together in a city, it would be the fourth largest in the country by population! How many police, lawyers, judges, prison, probation officers, social workers, etc. would feel safe and happy with no crime or social problems living exclusively with each other?

The MAIN societal problem in the United States, and much of the world today, is NOT guns, or drugs, or mental illness, or crime, or sexual harassment, or bullying, or suicide, or (institutional) racism, or illegal immigration, or income inequality, or unemployment, or (increasing and chronic) homelessness, or fake news, or political corruption, or corporate irresponsibility, or any of the many other SYMPTOMS being blamed and focused on. Almost all these and many other problems and issues have at their root the same simple source (seeking solution): More and more people in every part of society do NOT feel nor believe nor are told and shown that who and how they are and what they think and say and do MATTERS; that they are IMPORTANT, and NEEDED, and DESIRED; that they BELONG, AFFECT and have a RESPONSIBILITY both to and from OTHERS – or that they have a DESIRABLE SHARED FUTURE to LOOK FORWARD and CONTRIBUTE TO.

The role of computers, robots, and Artificial Intelligence is increasingly expanding beyond simply automated labor to COMPANIONSHIP. Why? Because growing numbers of humans feel forgotten, excluded, isolated, alone, alienated, unwanted, unloved, unaccepted, unappreciated, unneeded, and unable, uninterested, and/or unwilling to connect with other humans (physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, sexually, etc.).

Society is less about its organization, structure, and services than its RELATIONSHIPS, HOPE, and TRUST. And THAT is what needs to be addressed – along with the values and traditions and institutions that support them.

Feeling like we have the power to make a difference makes us more likely to help others.

That’s MY perspective. What’s YOURS?

Help me help you help others.

What suggestions do YOU have to include, involve, inspire, edify, encourage, and empower others – to make things right or at least better (now and/or in the future)?

Sometimes conflicts can actually create opportunities for us to make the world a better place.

What is YOUR vision, mission, and role – for how to build peace and understanding between people and to live most compatibly together?

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Is Life Like A Sudoku Puzzle?

Sudoku is a popular number puzzle. The goal is to arrange numbers (1-9) [but sometimes in addition to just numbers also letters (A-G)] so that all are included and none duplicate in any given row or column or smaller square within the total square. Perhaps there is some algorithm and simple pattern methodology that applies – like with boxes where all the numbers must add up to the same sum vertically, horizontally, and diagonally, or all the colors on a side of a three-dimensional cube need to match, like with a Rubik’s cube; if so, I don’t know it – and there seem to be almost endless variations for the final Sudoku “solution”.

Sudoku can be found in newspapers, puzzle books, and online. There are most frequently four levels of difficulty offered: easy, intermediate, hard, and evil.

I often enjoy doing what is easy and can usually successfully complete the task and feel good about it. Afterward, I will sometimes, then, move on to a more challenging intermediate puzzle, that might require more time and effort, but also can usually be successfully completed. How I feel after, though, is seldom any better than with the easy level.

Occasionally, I will attempt something difficult. Sometimes I make mistakes. Sometimes I give up. Sometimes I actually figure it out and make everything fit as required. But what I usually feel is simply relief rather than accomplished or proud.

I seldom even bother with evil. It does not interest or appeal to me. Although I might be capable to doing it, the few times I did were far more painful than pleasurable.

What about for you? Do you focus mostly on what is easy (in your life)?

Are you also willing and able to do what is more difficult?

Are you willing to at least attempt doing what you know in advance is considered to be difficult?

And what about what is considered evil?
Does that attract and appeal to you?

Does it satisfy you –as much or more than the other/previous three?

Many times what we do gets easier with practice.
Do you find doing evil easy or difficult?

There often seem plenty of opportunities – for each category.
Which do you focus on?

Which do you find most emotionally rewarding?

Regardless of why you might even be devoting any time, attention, and effort to Sudoku (or anything or anyone else in life), what might your preferences, habits, and “results” reveal and “say” about you?

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Have you heard or used the term “sheople”?

It seems popular to think of and refer to any human individual or group believed to just “mindlessly follow” and “conform” to be like sheep – but actual real sheep are seldom as weak, helpless, dependent, and unable to think for themselves as many humans are or believe.

‘Domesticated” humans act often more like lemmings than sheep (or dogs, horses, cows, goats, pigs, or any other household, farm, or wild animal(s) in their thinking and behavior. Why insult sheep or any other animals?

While all creatures share much in common, each is also unique (and, in this, humans are no exception – in their exceptionalism).

Religious “pastors” are not “pastoralists” and the comparison probably made more sense in the past to populations living with closer connection to animals than most modern urban people who know little about sheep.

MY first few jobs were working with sheep, so I know a little bit about real sheep – as well as many other domesticated and wild animals (that many people sometimes say odd and often inaccurate or “untrue” things about).

Take, for instance, “black sheep” – among white sheep. There are several different breeds of sheep with black faces and/or black wool. There is nothing inherently bad or wrong or wild or crazy or even special about any of them, individually or as a group – other than when seen in a group with an obvious difference in appearance (of coloration).

The most common reason for different breeds to be mixed in a flock is the same as why some (castrated males) might wear bells (bell weathers): to make is easier to quickly tell if anyone is missing without having to count all the others.

To make the math simple, ten black sheep in a flock of 100 is 10% – and if any one of those 10 is missing, so might and even likely are around 9 others. If one of ten black sheep in a herd of 1,000 white sheep (1%) is missing, how many others do you think are potentially missing? One percent? It could be more like ten percent – meaning maybe 99 others….

Every individual (and group) has its own path – and like people walking in a labyrinth, it’s not always obvious to others or themselves how far along or even what direction they are going toward their destination.

All who wander are not lost. A black sheep is not necessarily any more “independent” (or “influential”) than others – nor any more or less likely to go its “own way” – but IF/when “LOST” often CAN “lead others “ASTRAY”….

Shepherds/sheep farmers/ranchers/herders or girls named Mary seldom need to search for and “rescue” lost sheep or lambs. Most eventually find their own way “home”. But sometimes they do need to be “protected” from predators and “temptations” that may harm them (and/or others).

Sometimes a shepherd is like a lighthouse, simply standing in one place watching out for sheep (like ships at a sea), guiding them away from danger and acting like a beacon to help them find their way back/home/where they need or desire to go/be.

Sheep don’t just bunch up nor are they just followers. They have their own personalities – and some a probably both more intelligent and independent than some humans appear.

Like military marching, the human in charge is seldom in front expecting all others behind to mindlessly follow nor in the rear pushing all in front along but usually along side – able to see and guide the group where they need to go.

I would rather be a guide on the side than a sage on a stage. I’m even really sure what a “thought leader” is but I would like to be some kind of “thought shepherd” gently guiding those I can toward perspectives and ways of thinking that might serve them better than many of the cultural “memes” that seem to limit or mislead.

A meme is really the theme of a mind virus. As someone who also worked for years in military, medical, and holistic health care professions, I strive to protect those around me from being infected with harmful beliefs and to help them recover from those they already have been.

We all have blind spots and beliefs that do not serve us or others. I certainly do. IF I MIGHT be able to help YOU in ANY way, please let me know. I may not be “BIONIC” – but Believe It Or Not, I Care (about YOU, the “world” we share, and the future being created for others after us).

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Memorial Day

Even many Americans seem to FORGET or NOT KNOW that this coming Monday (May 29th) is a (federal) holiday – and most that do, seem to NOT KNOW (nor even care) why. What about YOU? Read more »

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Evolution does not require revolution

Individuals, societies/cultures, and species all “evolve” – in “dynamic spirals” – at different rates along different lines to different hierarchal levels. Like a labyrinth, regardless of perceived current position or direction, all are traveling to the same eventual “destination” – but in their own time and way. Read more »