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		<title>Breathe &#8211; Deeply!</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 01 Jan 2012 22:50:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Oren Pardes</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Today, like all others, is the start of a new year. When beginning anything, the idea is usually also to be gaining something. Initiative can be good &#8211; but is better when it also includes finishitive. It&#8217;s very seldom enough to just initiate; we usually must also &#8220;integrate&#8221; &#8211; far more than just (what is [...]]]></description>
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<p><big>Today, like all others, is the start of a new year. When beginning anything, the idea is usually also to be gaining something. Initiative can be good &#8211; but is better when it also includes finishitive. It&#8217;s very seldom enough to just initiate; we usually must also &#8220;integrate&#8221;<span id="more-2341"></span> &#8211; far more than just (what is and is not taught in and outside of) public schools. </p>
<p>Each anniversary marks not just another year past, but also one year closer to our (impending) death. Our expiration is not a one-time event (at the end of life); it is an ongoing process (from the start as a major part of life &#8211; just like growth, evolution, and transformation). While we do not stay the same, grow OR die is a false paradigm. We often grow AND die simultaneously.</p>
<p>The opposite of expiration is inspiration. To inspire also means to inhale or breath in. Expiration is essentially our last exhalation. How much or often we conspire and perspire is optional, but if we do not regularly inspire we will very soon expire. No need to hyperventilate. Just breath &#8211; often and deeply.</p>
<p>Hale is a word that means both whole and health. Whole health care is often referred to as holistic. To (be) in-hale would seem to be much more desirable than ex-hale. The word hale not only hails the relationship of health to wholeness but also the idea of holons &#8211; or whole parts of a greater whole (composed of parts). Life is essentially time, relationships, and the stories we tell ourselves and others (mainly about the other two). Our life story is composed of many stories and all are holons within the greater story of all life. The most meaningful stories are usually those that touch the heart.</p>
<p>The first organ to develop after conception (and start of life) is the heart. The heart is more than a pump (of blood, oxygen, and sugar); it is also the prime source of and connection to our vibratory energy in motion &#8211; our e-motions. Without motion there is no life. Prime the pump of life. Breathe &#8211; deeply!</p>
<p>Life outside the womb begins with the first breath. Our heart cannot beat for long if we don&#8217;t breath &#8211; and resume regular respiration. Respiration requires both inhalation and exhalation, inspiration and expiration. Breath in; breath out. If possible, live long and prosper. Just don&#8217;t hold your breath trying.</p>
<p>Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take &#8211; or hold. Expiration may be inevitable, but is ongoing inspiration and aspiration that keeps us alive &#8211; physically and emotionally. We give the breath of life each and every time we inspire (ourselves or others). Those who do not inhale lose some life in the process. Holding one&#8217;s breath or not breathing at all taking breaths away and leaves us breathless. Breath-taking moments are not nearly as desirable as those that make us breath deeply, fully, and profoundly.</p>
<p>May the year(s) to come be filled with many moments that fill your lungs, your heart, your mind, your time, your relationships, and your stories with life. Breathe &#8211; and share your inspiration, perspective, and comments below.</p>
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		<title>FYI &#8211; Covering Content Is Often Counterproductive</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 14 Nov 2011 09:09:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Oren Pardes</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Despite common claims to the contrary, &#8220;content&#8221; is NOT king, queen, or even a royal pain. More important than conTENT is conTEXT &#8211; and how the content is used. Content can be anything – of any quantity or quality &#8211; yet even the &#8220;ideal&#8221; amount of the “best” content only really &#8220;matters&#8221; or has &#8220;value&#8221; [...]]]></description>
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<p><big>Despite common claims to the contrary, &#8220;content&#8221; is NOT king, queen, or even a royal pain. <span id="more-2265"></span>More important than conTENT is conTEXT &#8211; and how the content is used. Content can be anything – of any quantity or quality &#8211; yet even the &#8220;ideal&#8221; amount of the “best” content only really &#8220;matters&#8221; or has &#8220;value&#8221; (at all) in regard to circumstance and application. This is especially true when the content is information (to be communicated).</p>
<p>Information (alone) is NOT power. Simply &#8220;having&#8221; or &#8220;knowing&#8221; (no matter what it may be) is not enough. The same is true regarding &#8220;potential&#8221;. Most &#8220;information&#8221; isn&#8217;t even really information; it&#8217;s just data. Information should not be confused with wisdom, action, or results, nor any of them with power.</p>
<p>Information is literally &#8220;in formation&#8221; and often changes &#8211; especially in how it is interpreted, understood, and acted upon. Some information is considered &#8220;timeless&#8221;. Other information is &#8220;time sensitive&#8221; and only relevant or useful for a particular period &#8211; after which it could actually be better NOT knowing.</p>
<p>The urge to seek, acquire, or share new, additional, or better information is constant &#8211; but not necessarily urgent. An &#8220;emergency&#8221; is &#8220;emergent&#8221;. What &#8220;emerges&#8221; depends upon what people do or do not do. So much information is &#8220;available&#8221; that many people suffer from &#8220;information overload&#8221;. Just as who knows you may matter more than who or what you know, what you do with what you know usually matters more than what or how much you know.</p>
<p>Although information is NOT really either a &#8220;currency&#8221; or a &#8220;commodity&#8221;, it is often &#8220;packaged&#8221; and sold (like a product and or service). The actual &#8220;cost&#8221;, &#8220;benefit&#8221;, and/or &#8220;worth&#8221; of information has no correlation with the monetary &#8220;value&#8221; it is exchanged for. Those selling information often arbitrarily change how much they ask for or will accept &#8211; and treat information independently from its use. It is NOT information people want (or pay for); it is what (they think) the information will do &#8211; when it is used (for them or against another).</p>
<p>It is often claimed that words are only 7% of communication &#8211; yet the words we use (especially when talking to ourselves) affect how we think, feel, act, and react. Sometimes simply changing words can change what we perceive &#8211; and thus what we (can and will) receive. Some antics are more than merely semantics, but the meaning of words matters &#8211; and can affect both behavior and the benefit (or lack thereof) we and/or others may achieve as a result.</p>
<p>Many people are not content to merely share (informational) &#8220;content&#8221; &#8211; and want to &#8220;<a href="http://orenpardes.com/c-ing">cover</a>&#8221; it (all). To cover means to hide, conceal, and protect. Rather than allowing (full) access, &#8220;covering&#8221; anything actually does the opposite. To dis-cover reveals, exposes, and makes content(s) available &#8211;  allowing those shared with to find their own meanings, uses, benefits, and values in context.</p>
<p>That&#8217;s my perspective. What&#8217;s yours?</p>
<p>Please share some informational content below &#8211; allowing others to discover something they did not know (about you, themselves, or something I wrote).</p>
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		<title>Change You Can Believe In?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 26 Sep 2011 00:32:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Oren Pardes</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[For things to change, first we must change &#8211; the value perceived. Change is constant &#8211; even if it&#8217;s often irregular and unpredictable. Ironically, the more some things change, the more they may seem the same. A value we believe in may have little relationship with the value that others perceive we have (to offer) [...]]]></description>
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<p><big>For things to change, first we must change &#8211; the <a href="http://appreciatingyourassets.com/a-question-of-values">value</a> perceived.</p>
<p>Change is constant &#8211; even if it&#8217;s often irregular and unpredictable. </p>
<p>Ironically, the more some things change, the more they may seem the same.<span id="more-2157"></span> </p>
<p>A value we believe in may have little relationship with the value that others perceive we have (to offer) for them. Some values change; others do not. The same is true for beliefs &#8211; both of ours and those of others.</p>
<p><center><em>&#8220;If my life is of no value to my friends, it is of none to myself.&#8221;</em><br />
~ Joseph Smith, Jr.</center></p>
<p>Changing friends might be an option &#8211; often thought of first by some.<br />
So might be changing oneself, changing meanings, and changing minds.</p>
<p><strong>To thine own self be true! </strong></p>
<p>Change, growth, evolution, transformation, and transcendence don&#8217;t negate maintaining integrity. Our truth is relative and what is true for us now may not be later &#8211; just as what once was no longer is. An easy example is that what was true for us when we were younger is often no longer still true, for or about us &#8211; not only because we have a different perspective, but because we no longer are who and how we once were. Anything we once were or once did but no longer are or do is essentially only true in the past and not true in the present. Likewise, what is true for and about us now may not be so in the future.</p>
<p><a href="http://OrenPardes.com/making-a-difference">Wanting one’s life to matter and make a positive difference (recognized and appreciated by others) is probably among most people’s deepest desires.</a>  </p>
<p>Showing others (our) kindness MIGHT be perceived as of &#8220;value&#8221; by some, but is actually beyond our control &#8211; yet is certainly &#8220;worth&#8221; doing even if it&#8217;s not &#8220;accepted&#8221;, acknowledged, or &#8220;validated&#8221;. </p>
<p>Expression and fulfillment do not &#8220;have to&#8221; involve others, but a life of &#8220;service&#8221; (and sometimes &#8220;sacrifice&#8221; tends to be more &#8220;rewarding&#8221; (for all) than merely living for oneself. It is also often a form of love. </p>
<p>A <a href="http://appreciatingyourassets.com/a-question-of-values">value</a> is what we consider important &#8211; and can differ from person to person and at different times. I agree with you that staying &#8220;true&#8221; to our value is important &#8211; no matter how others react. I also believe that our value is greater when it is shared. </p>
<p>Finally, regarding how we (and our truth) are perceived. Consider the story of the <em>Three Blind Men And The Elephant</em>. The limited part of the elephant that each man touched and knew was both true and not true regarding what an elephant is. Even the elephant is limited in his self-knowledge. Each has only their own experience to go on &#8211; and that may change over time. </p>
<p>If I hold up a piece of paper that is different colors on each side, we may each claim that what we see is the &#8220;correct&#8221; color &#8211; and we would each be &#8220;right&#8221; and yet so would neither of us be regarding what we could not (also) see. I hope this helps put the Joseph Smith, Jr.&#8217;s quote in perspective. </p>
<p>I don&#8217;t really know what Joseph was thinking or meant regarding value. I found it an interesting quote and concept to consider &#8211; and am sharing my CURRENT thoughts about it. </p>
<p>That&#8217;s my perspective. What&#8217;s yours?</p>
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		<title>When I WIN so does the TEAM</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 23 Sep 2011 16:07:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Oren Pardes</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[There&#8217;s no &#8220;U&#8221; in &#8220;TEAM&#8220;. There is also no &#8220;I&#8220;. But there is an &#8220;I&#8221; inside of &#8220;WIN&#8220; (Where It&#8217;s Needed). Together Everyone Achieves More in a TEAM (Tell Everyone About Meaning) - but only if 2 or more (u and I) WIN-WIN (With Integrity Now) &#8211; creating WIN-WIN (Which Increases Net-Worth In Networks). When [...]]]></description>
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<p><big>There&#8217;s no &#8220;<strong>U</strong>&#8221; in &#8220;<strong><a href="acronames.weebly.com/team.html">TEAM</a></strong>&#8220;. There is also no &#8220;<strong>I</strong>&#8220;. But there is an &#8220;<strong>I</strong>&#8221; inside of &#8220;<strong><a href="http://acronames.weebly.com/win.html">WIN</a></strong>&#8220;</big> (<strong>W</strong>here <strong>I</strong>t&#8217;s <strong>N</strong>eeded).<span id="more-2379"></span></p>
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<big><strong>T</strong>ogether <strong>E</strong>veryone <strong>A</strong>chieves <strong>M</strong>ore in a <a href="http://acronames.weebly.com/team.html">TEAM</a></big> (<strong>T</strong>ell <strong>E</strong>veryone <strong>A</strong>bout <strong>M</strong>eaning) <big>- but only if 2 or more</big> (<strong>u</strong> and <strong>I</strong>)<big> <strong><a href="http://acronames.weebly.com/win.html">WIN-WIN</a></strong></big> (<strong>W</strong>ith <strong>I</strong>ntegrity <strong>N</strong>ow)<big> &#8211; creating <strong><a href="http://acronames.weebly.com/win.html">WIN-WIN</a></strong></big> (<strong>W</strong>hich <strong>I</strong>ncreases <strong>N</strong>et-<strong>W</strong>orth <strong>I</strong>n <strong>N</strong>etworks). <big><strong>W</strong>hen <strong>I</strong> <strong>N</strong>otice &#8211; <strong>W</strong>hat&#8217;s <strong>I</strong>nside&#8217;s <strong>N</strong>ice, <a href="http://acronames.weebly.com/win.html">WIN-WIN</a> need not be <a href="http://acronames.weebly.com/equal.html">EQUAL</a></big> (<strong>E</strong>veryone <strong>Q</strong>ualifies <strong>U</strong>sually <strong>A</strong> <strong>L</strong>ittle)<big> for all to <strong><a href="http://acronames.weebly.com/win.html">WIN</a></strong></big> (<strong>W</strong>anting <strong>I</strong>n <strong>N</strong>othing).</p>
<p><big>Both W<strong>I</strong>NN<strong>I</strong>NG and W<strong>I</strong>LL<strong>I</strong>NG have two &#8220;<strong>I</strong>&#8220;s. Two eyes are better than one &#8211; when they&#8217;re both open and work together. The same is true for two &#8220;<strong>I</strong>&#8220;s.</p>
<p>W<strong>I</strong>NN<strong>I</strong>NG is a result of us <a href="http://acronames.weebly.com/each.html">EACH</a></big> (<strong>E</strong>ffort <strong>A</strong>dded <strong>C</strong>reating <strong>H</strong>armony)<big> being W<strong>I</strong>LL<strong>I</strong>NG to take full responsibility for our own <a href=acronames.weebly.com/data.html>DATA</a></big> (<strong>D</strong>ecisions <strong>A</strong>bout <strong>T</strong>aking <strong>A</strong>ction)<big> &#8211; until we all <strong><a href="acronames.weebly.com/win.html">WIN</a></strong></big> (<strong>W</strong>ork <strong>I</strong>s <strong>N</strong>eeded).<big> Our <strong><a href="http://acronmes.weebly.com/team.html">TEAM</a></strong></big> (<strong>T</strong>alent <strong>E</strong>ventually <strong>A</strong>ttracts <strong>M</strong>oney)<big> can only <a href="http://acronames.weebly.com/really.html">REALLY</a> &#8220;<strong><a href="http://acronames.weebly.com/win.html">WIN</a></strong>&#8220;</big> (<strong>W</strong>hat <strong>I</strong>s <strong>N</strong>ext)<big> when <strong>EACH</strong> feel like &#8220;<strong>I</strong> W<strong>I</strong>N&#8221;</big> (<strong>W</strong>hat &#8220;<strong>I</strong>&#8221; <strong>N</strong>eed)<big>! </p>
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		<title>Secrets of Creativity and Innovation</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 23 Sep 2011 03:29:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Oren Pardes</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Although we are all different, and each unique, sacred, and holy (as a result), nobody starts out as an &#8220;original&#8221;. Neither does anything else &#8211; including ideas. Nothing is ever really created or completely &#8220;new&#8221;. All that we are, have, (can) do, and know is based on what came before. Everything is essentially a &#8220;remix&#8221; [...]]]></description>
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<p><big>Although we are all different, and each unique, sacred, and holy (as a result), nobody starts out as an &#8220;original&#8221;. Neither does anything else &#8211; including ideas.<span id="more-2109"></span> Nothing is ever really created or completely &#8220;new&#8221;. </p>
<p>All that we are, have, (can) do, and know is based on what came before.</p>
<p>Everything is essentially a &#8220;remix&#8221; or variation of an already existing model or theme. Creativity and innovation is seldom about adding more pieces &#8211; but connecting, uniting, and integrating until something new emerges (and functions better). Innovation starts with <a href="http://AppreciatingYourAssets.com">appreciating your assets</a> and then <a href="http://AppreciatingYourAssets.com">combining, refining, and redefining</a> &#8211; &#8220;upcycling&#8221; from &#8220;cradle to cradle&#8221;.</p>
<p>Innovation does not occur in a vacuum. Creation requires input, influence, and a frame of reference. Content requires context. Only them can individual ingredients be utilized or understood (as holons &#8211; whole parts of the whole).</p>
<p>Before we evolve, we learn and grow by copying. We can&#8217;t produce anything new until we are fluent in the language of our domain. We need copying to build a foundation of knowledge and understanding. Then we can synergize.</p>
<p><strong>The 3 Major Elements of Creativity: </strong></p>
<p>1. Copy<br />
2. Transform<br />
3. Combine.</p>
<p><strong>A few ways to start thinking more creatively include:</strong></p>
<p>* Looking from Multiple Perspectives<br />
* Looking for Patterns and/or Relationships<br />
* Looking for Similarity and/or Difference<br />
* Zooming In and/or Zooming Out<br />
* Categorizing and/or Uncategorizing<br />
* Considering Cause and/or Effect<br />
* Inverting or Turning Things Inside Out<br />
* Developing Analogies<br />
* Oversimplifying<br />
* Differentiating and/or Integrating</p>
<p>That&#8217;s the <a href="http://orenpardes.com">Pardes Perspective</a>. What&#8217;s yours?</p>
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		<title>Because Losers Always Make Excuses</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 23 Sep 2011 00:21:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Oren Pardes</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It seems increasingly common today for people unhappy with life or their situation to BLAME &#8211; Because Losers Always Make Excuses. This seems just as true in people&#8217;s personal lives as it is in politics. Even many &#8220;successful&#8221; people with &#8220;positive&#8221; attitudes seem to BLAME those not as &#8220;successful&#8221; as they are for not assuming [...]]]></description>
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<p><big>It seems increasingly common today for people unhappy with life or their situation to <strong><a href="http://acronames.weebly.com/blame.html">BLAME</a></strong> &#8211; <strong>B</strong>ecause <strong>L</strong>osers <strong>A</strong>lways <strong>M</strong>ake <strong>E</strong>xcuses.<span id="more-1816"></span> This seems just as true in people&#8217;s personal lives as it is in politics.</p>
<p>Even many &#8220;successful&#8221; people with &#8220;positive&#8221; attitudes seem to <strong>BLAME</strong> those not as &#8220;successful&#8221; as they are for not assuming &#8220;responsibility&#8221; &#8211; for their values, choices, actions, and results (apparently assuming we all have complete, or at least considerable, control over our options and outcomes).</p>
<p>If our <strong>E</strong>mergency <strong>M</strong>edical <strong>S</strong>ystem thought like this, then very few would ever be helped. Those in need of &#8220;outside assistance&#8221; obviously &#8220;failed&#8221; to prevent their illnesses or injuries &#8211; and don&#8217;t seem to be taking &#8220;full responsibility&#8221; to care for themselves (on their own). If their lives were &#8220;important enough&#8221; to them, shouldn&#8217;t they regain consciousness, start breathing, and stop bleeding on their own? Many people &#8220;treated&#8221; for a &#8220;complaint&#8221; don&#8217;t even (ever) pay at all, let alone in advance, for the &#8220;aid&#8221; they seek, need, and receive (first). </p>
<p>None of us may be &#8220;entitled&#8221; to anything in life, yet why deny those in need?</p>
<p>ALL of us benefit(ed) from and REQUIRE(D) input and assistance from others (often on an ongoing basis throughout our lives). Often the best way to help ourselves is to help others &#8211; who may not even know what they really need.</p>
<p>Those who <strong>BLAME</strong> put those who merely complain to shame. The <strong>BLAME</strong> Game is usually one in which no one can win. Excuses and finger-pointing tends to result in lose-lose-lose for all. Affixing <strong>BLAME</strong> doesn&#8217;t fix problems.</p>
<p>Whatever perceived problems exist always seem to be someone else&#8217;s fault (as if the person blaming had no more responsibility than for an earthquake). The only solution or action proposed to change things is usually to punish or get rid of the individual(s) or group accused of being  &#8220;accountable&#8221; for all ills, errors, injustices, and inequities. Being &#8220;responsible&#8221; does NOT mean simply assuming or being assigned credit or <strong>BLAME</strong>; it means the ability to respond.</p>
<p>The best response is NOT to affix <strong>BLAME</strong> (especially elsewhere), but simply change, correct, and/or fix what we can, as best we can, whenever we can. </p>
<p>Don&#8217;t <strong><a href="http://acronames.weebly.com/blame.html">BLAME</a></strong>! Don&#8217;t be a Loser! Be a Learner helping others <a href="http://acronames.weebly.com/win.html">WIN</a> with you!  </p>
<p>To WIN, reach out, respond, and help others &#8211; and do whatever you can, whenever you can, for whomever you can, to make the world better for all.</p>
<p>That&#8217;s my perspective. What&#8217;s yours?</p>
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		<title>Aim, Ready, Fire!</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 10 Sep 2011 01:06:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Oren Pardes</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[To aim simply means to point in a direction. There is NO reason to "fire" without some kind of aim or intent. Even arsonists have "reasons".]]></description>
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<p><big><strong>Ready or not, a fire without aim is never good</strong>.<span id="more-1924"></span></p>
<p>&#8220;<strong>Aim, ready, fire</strong>&#8221; makes more sense to me than &#8220;<strong>Ready, aim, fire</strong>&#8221; or &#8220;<strong>Ready, fire, aim</strong>&#8220;.</p>
<p>Think about it. &#8220;<strong>Point and shoot</strong>&#8221; vs &#8220;<strong>Shoot and point</strong>&#8220;. </p>
<p>Shoot! What&#8217;s my point? Shouldn&#8217;t I <strong>have a point &#8211; especially before shooting</strong> (a gun, a basketball, or anything else &#8211; including my mouth off)?</p>
<p><strong>Firing without aiming can be dangerous and foolish</strong> &#8211; especially with anything that could hurt oneself or others. To <strong>aim</strong> simply means to <strong>point</strong> in a direction. The ONLY reason to &#8220;<strong>fire</strong>&#8221; is <strong>with</strong> some <strong>aim or intent</strong> in mind. Even arsonists have &#8220;reasons&#8221;. Most shooters (and people using metaphors of violence, like shooting, usually &#8220;<strong>adjust</strong>&#8221; both their &#8220;<strong>aim</strong>&#8221; and their &#8220;<strong>fire</strong>&#8221; based upon their &#8220;<strong>results</strong>&#8220;. <strong>Without impact, shooting might as well be considered &#8220;pointless&#8221;.</strong> </p>
<p><strong>Point of aim</strong> and <strong>point of impact</strong> are NOT always the same. Even when aim and impact are aligned, adjustments are often necessary to keep them that way. <strong>The aim of pointing</strong> is not simply to shoot &#8211; but to accomplish something. It&#8217;s &#8220;helpful&#8221; to know what that is &#8211; in advance.</p>
<p>True &#8220;gun control&#8221; means &#8220;hitting&#8221; what you <strong>aim</strong> at &#8211; with the <strong>impact</strong> (and <strong>outcome</strong>) intended. Unintended impact can be &#8220;perilous&#8221;. <strong>Don&#8217;t just shoot</strong> to see what happens. <strong>Set your sights</strong> on something with a desired outcome already in mind &#8211; and <strong>adjust as necessary.</strong> In &#8220;quick-draw&#8221;, &#8220;instinctive&#8221;, and &#8220;combat&#8221; shooting, <strong>aiming</strong> (and <strong>adjusting</strong>) often occurs <strong>WHILE firing</strong>. </p>
<p><strong>Know your intent before you point.</strong> Target selection, sight picture, sight alignment, trigger pull, stance, grip, and breathing are a few of MANY factors affecting (the results of) shooting a &#8220;firearm&#8221;, but more important that the &#8220;arms&#8221; anyone &#8220;fires&#8221; is what&#8217;s in their mind (before, during, and after). </p>
<p>Our &#8220;inner environment&#8221; is usually more important than our equipment or any outer conditions. Our &#8220;<strong>inner fire</strong>&#8221; strongly influences our <strong>aim(s)</strong>. It&#8217;s NOT our &#8220;readiness&#8221;, but our desire(s) determining what we are (or are not) &#8220;prepared&#8221; to do. The U.S. military preaches that <strong>proper prior planning prevents piss poor performance</strong> &#8211; but that does NOT mean waiting until &#8220;ready&#8221; to fire. Few people are ever really ready &#8211; for anything. <strong>&#8220;Ready&#8221; or not, take action &#8211; but NOT without some prior idea of what and why.</strong> </p>
<p>The &#8220;best&#8221; choice is to <strong>think like a person of action</strong> and <strong>act like a person of thought.</strong> That&#8217;ll usually <strong>score</strong> you &#8220;<strong>points</strong>&#8221; &#8211; whether or not we &#8220;<strong>shoot</strong>&#8220;, let alone what, when, where, how, or why.</p>
<p>To &#8220;<strong>fire</strong>&#8221; someone originally meant more than just &#8220;terminate employment&#8221;; it referred to <strong>burning</strong> their house to the ground &#8211; forcing them to leave and move elsewhere. With so many wars, fires, and people &#8220;unemployed&#8221;, I think it&#8217;s time we all <strong>focus more on our aim(s)</strong> BEFORE we are &#8220;<strong>ready</strong>&#8221; or <strong>fire</strong>.</p>
<p></strong> That&#8217;s my perspective. What&#8217;s yours?</p>
<p><strong>What are YOUR aims, aspirations, and desires?</strong></p>
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		<title>Expertise Not Required</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 10 Jun 2011 00:46:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Oren Pardes</dc:creator>
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<p><big>Are you an &#8220;expert&#8221; or &#8220;authority&#8221;? I&#8217;m NOT &#8211; even on what I think, how I feel, nor anything else I have experience with and/or continue to learn about. Whatever I post online is only an attempt to share one perspective of my perception at a particular time &#8211; with the hope that my interpretation may have some value and benefit for YOU by reading it.<span id="more-1826"></span> </p>
<p>Humans are influenced by many things, including perceptions of &#8220;<strong>A</strong>uthority&#8221;. &#8220;<strong>S</strong>ocial proof&#8221;, &#8220;<strong>S</strong>carcity&#8221;, &#8220;<strong>R</strong>eciprocity&#8221;, &#8220;<strong>C</strong>onsistency&#8221;, and &#8220;<strong>L</strong>iking&#8221; also tend to influence most people (to one degree or another). To help me remember these 6, I made up the acronym &#8220;<strong>SCRALS</strong>&#8221; &#8211; but like many other &#8220;<strong>SLACRS</strong>&#8220;, I often don&#8217;t even influence myself enough to apply most of what I &#8220;know&#8221;. </p>
<p>Neither &#8220;awareness&#8221; nor &#8220;knowledge&#8221; has made me (feel) very &#8220;influential&#8221;. Perhaps others question my &#8220;expertise&#8221; or &#8220;authority&#8221; even more than I do. Either way, I encourage YOU to always consider the <a href="http://orenpardes.com/dont-shoot-the-messenger">content</a>, <a href="http://orenpardes.com/dont-shoot-the-messenger">context</a>, and <a href="http://orenpardes.com/dont-shoot-the-messenger">meaning(s)</a> of any <a href="http://orenpardes.com/dont-shoot-the-messenger">message</a> more the <a href="http://orenpardes.com/dont-shoot-the-messenger">messenger</a>. Style and social status seldom successfully substitute for substance, actual experience, or accuracy.</p>
<p>I seldom &#8220;challenge&#8221; or &#8220;assert&#8221; ideas simply to convince others that I am &#8220;right&#8221;, know &#8220;more&#8221; or &#8220;better&#8221;, or in order to gain &#8220;control&#8221; of anyone or anything &#8211; including myself. If what I write has value and benefit for others, I am pleased, but since I don&#8217;t know who may read my words or how they will interpret them, please consider what I write as just offering a glimpse into my thinking at the time that I posted. What you think, feel, or do after reading is not only up to you but completely beyond my control, and usually even awareness &#8211; unless you let me know. I&#8217;d welcome hearing from you.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t seem to get many comments, e-mails, or phone calls about my blog &#8211; so I&#8217;m sometimes surprised when people I meet in person tell me that they read and like my online post(s). I would greatly appreciate a little feedback &#8211; to at least acknowledge that I am not writing merely for myself. The lack of response to previous posts is one reason I post so much less now. There are many possibilities for why readers may not comment &#8211; including not knowing how or not caring enough about what I wrote to do so. What about YOU? </p>
<p>Whether you agree, disagree, have a different opinion, don&#8217;t understand, or don&#8217;t yet know what to say, I&#8217;d still love to hear from you &#8211; preferably here.</p>
<p>Sometimes the best way to help ourselves is to help others (first). If I might somehow be of help to you &#8211; or you to me, please let me know. I may not be an &#8220;expert&#8221; or &#8220;authority&#8221; but I still might be able to offer you something of value if you allow me to. Perhaps you consider yourself more knowledgeable or experienced than I seem to be. If so, I especially welcome your input.</p>
<p>Some people have difficulty saying &#8220;<strong>No</strong>&#8220;. Others struggle with &#8220;<strong>I love you</strong>&#8220;. Many seem to have trouble with &#8220;<strong>I&#8217;m sorry</strong>&#8220;. For me, it is often hardest to admit, let alone say, &#8220;<strong>I need help</strong>&#8221; &#8211; and sometimes even harder to accept it when it is offered. Even just letting me know that YOU read this would mean a lot to me. It doesn&#8217;t necessarily take much to make a difference in someone&#8217;s life. You do not need to be an &#8220;expert&#8221; or &#8220;authority&#8221; to make a difference in mine &#8211; nor do I need to be an &#8220;expert&#8221; to be of service to YOU.</p>
<p>That&#8217;s my perspective. What&#8217;s yours?</p>
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		<title>Memorial Monday</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 30 May 2011 15:33:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Oren Pardes</dc:creator>
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<p><big>Memorial Monday was not originally intended as a day off of work to go shopping &#8211; nor to make the weekend longer to go anywhere else. It was meant to be a day to remember &#8211; and reflect with respect.<span id="more-1801"></span> </p>
<p>Honoring the (war) dead has little to do with patriotism, nationalism, or glorifying the military. Simply &#8220;serving&#8221; or dying does not make someone a hero but all who die while serving matter and deserve not being forgotten. </p>
<p>The same is true for their families. It is important to keep in mind that the wounded (and still <a href="http://orenpardes.com/a-day-for-the-living">living</a>) almost always outnumber the dead, that sacrifice and service are not only in combat, and that Americans in uniform are not the only people affected by wars, conflicts, and &#8220;kinetic actions&#8221; (involving U.S. Armed Forces).</p>
<p>May the <a href="http://orenpardes.com/making-memories-matter">memories</a> you make and that others have of YOU be worth thinking about more than just once a year.</p>
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		<title>The Light of Freedom</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 08 Dec 2010 23:19:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Oren Pardes</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Neither liberty nor freedom is free - and cannot be taken for granted. The (often physical) fight to preserve or regain liberty and freedom often seems never-ending - like the Global War OF (rather than Against) Terror. The struggle is not only against tyranny and oppression but also against apathy and indifference. All that is often needed for evil to triumph is for good people to do nothing. But darkness does not understand and cannot overcome light. Rather than continually fight, we would be wise to nurture and share our light - and that of all others around us.]]></description>
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<p>A minor Jewish holiday may be of major importance to anyone who values freedom.<span id="more-1756"></span></p>
<p>A <a href="http://orenpardes.com/happy-holidays">holiday</a> is a holy day. Holy refers to that which is blessed, hallowed, consecrated, and sacred. A holiday is a special day &#8211; unlike others. The &#8220;minor&#8221; winter holiday of <em>Hanukkah</em>, often called the Festival of Lights, is celebrated for 8 nights and days – and can be spelled in English in at least as many ways. In Hebrew, the word <em>Hanukkah</em> means dedication – and refers to the re-dedication of the defiled and profaned (Second) Jewish Temple in Jerusalem (now covered by the Muslim Dome of the Rock mosque) after a long bloody battle against an occupying army and oppressive ruler (King Antiochas IV Epiphanes of the Syrian-Greek Seleucid Empire). </p>
<p>The candelabra Jews light is NOT a 7-candle <em>menorah</em> but a 9-candle <em>Hanukkiah</em> – with the one candle whose sole purpose is to light the others. This is to remind us both that even one can make a difference and spread light without losing any of their own AND that the true and only purpose of the &#8220;highest&#8221; among us is to serve others &#8211; NOT the other way around. </p>
<p>Although considered the LEAST important Jewish religious holiday, <em>Hanukkah</em> is VERY popular. Attempts by both Jewish rabbis and Jew-haters to stop the annual celebration have always failed &#8211; even in the Nazi death camps during World War II. This may be because <em>Hanukkah</em> is NOT really about a religious miracle enabling a small amount of (olive) oil for the lamp of the Eternal Flame in the Temple to burn for 8 days instead of only one. </p>
<p>Eight is a significant number in Judaism. Jewish boys are circumcised in the ritual of their Covenant on the eighth day after birth. The night before, there is a tradition of staying up all night keeping watch over the infant. Modern New Years celebrations take place 8 days after Christmas &#8211; the day designated as the day of birth for the Jewish baby Jesus.</p>
<p>The “reason for the season” and most of what is associated with it has nothing to do with sustainable energy, oil from petro-chemical companies, or even seeking and sharing light during the longest nights of the year while waiting for the Sun (of God and man) to return. The reason for the <em>Hanukkah</em> lights is not for the &#8220;lighting of the house within&#8221;, but rather for the &#8220;illumination of the house without,&#8221; so that passers-by should see it and be reminded of the great &#8220;miracle&#8221; that happened there. </p>
<p><strong>The Jewish Cinco de Mayo?</strong></p>
<p><em>Hanukkah</em> celebrates the (military) victory of an oppressed people willing to fight, over-throw, and expel a far more powerful adversary (governing, taxing, and persecuting them). While many died, many who resisted, persisted &#8211; and (briefly) regained autonomy, sovereignty, liberty, and freedom. The cost was high. The (eventual) outcome far from certain. </p>
<p><em>Hanukkah</em> commemorates historical events &#8211; that only later acquired religious and commercial significance with corresponding rituals around candle lighting, gift giving, gambling games, and oil-fried food (and cheese). The current holiday commences each year on the 25th of the Jewish month of <em>Kislev</em> &#8211; which was the day fighting finally ceased (in 165 BCE). </p>
<p>Neither liberty nor freedom is free &#8211; and cannot be taken for granted. The (often physical) fight to preserve or regain liberty and freedom often seems never-ending &#8211; like the Global War OF (rather than Against) Terror. The struggle is not only against tyranny and oppression but also against apathy and indifference. All that is often needed for evil to triumph is for good people to do nothing. But darkness does not understand and cannot overcome light. Rather than continually fight, we would be wise to nurture and share our light &#8211; and that of all others around us.</p>
<p><strong>What did the bees know?</strong></p>
<p>Much of what is known about the history of <em>Hanukkah</em> and the Festival of Lights comes from the two Biblical books of the Maccabees. <em>Maccabee</em> means hammer in Hebrew. It was the nickname and <em>nom de guerre</em> of Judah, one of the five sons of Matthias, leader of the original resistance and revolt. Those who followed, fought, and died, beside the Hebrew Hammer became known as The Few. The Proud. The Maccabees. A legendary Band of Brothers. </p>
<p>Many were martyred. Hannah and her (Magnificent) Seven sons were always faithful &#8211; despite being tortured and executed because of their faith. Matthias and many of the Maccabees were also killed while fighting &#8211; for and because of what they believed. Semper Fi, Matt! </p>
<p><strong>The Hebrew Hammer was neither an MC nor PC.</strong> </p>
<p>The Maccabees didn&#8217;t sit around and sing &#8220;If I had a hammer&#8221;. They became the change they wanted to see in their world. The didn&#8217;t beat their swords into ploughshares &#8211; or choose to &#8220;go along to get along&#8221; (with those in power seeking to either assimilate or eliminate them). Then took up swords &#8211; and struck like a hammer &#8211; against those with shares in what today resemble the Patriot Act, TSA, RFID tracking chips &#8211; wanted by a New World Order bank and government.</p>
<p>The best way to disable a (RFID) microchip (and not get caught or in trouble) is to hit it with a hammer. It is also often the best way for a human to get the attention of a misbehaving baby orangutan. They have really hard heads &#8211; able to withstand even harder blows by their mother!</p>
<p>Blacksmiths use hammers to make swords. The hammer and sword of the Maccabees was NOT the same as the hammer and sickle of Communism. The symbol of Socialist governments started out not as a hammer and sickle but as a hammer and a plough &#8211; for tilling the soil (and burying bodies rather than hatchets). </p>
<p>A sickle is similar to a curved or crescent-shaped sword. Out of the Fertile Crescent came Islam, the Arabic word for submission. The crescent is a symbol for Islam &#8211; which looks very similar to a sickle. So is the scimitar and other curved swords &#8211; often used in efforts to convert or kill foes and (infidel) unbelievers.</p>
<p>Communists, Socialist, Muslims, Christians, warlords, drug cartels, pirates, and many others, have often been quicker to turn to the sword than Japanese Samurai. But Ninjas did not fear the sword. Neither did the Maccabees. Judith is not the only Jewish woman in the Bible to have used an enemy&#8217;s own sword to sever his head. It is important to keep one&#8217;s head when one&#8217;s life or liberty is threatened.</p>
<p><strong>Mac and Cheese and the Maccabees</strong></p>
<p>Governments are controlled by banks which are controlled by insurance companies. The best insurance for freedom is friends &#8211; followed by water and food. Even firearms cannot ensure being able to eat, drink, or survive. Fiat currency is not money. There is also no guarantee of what or how much may be possible to exchange for it. Silver, gold, and many other &#8220;commodities&#8221; hold and will increase in value, but cannot be eaten, worn, or usually directly used other than to barter. The ability to protect and defend oneself is not limited to firearms. Food for thought is as important as food for the the body &#8211; and what we feed our minds and comes out of out mouth often even more important than what we put in our mouth or comes out the other end.</p>
<p><em>Hanukkah</em> is a celebration of liberty and religious freedom as much as it is a festival of light. The two are interconnected. One need not be Jewish, speak Hebrew, or like Adam Sandler or his latest <em>Hanukkah</em> song(s), to find value and significance in the meaning and message. <em>Hanukkah</em> is a time to shine bright, not just at night, but also during the day &#8211; and to be a beacon, like a lighthouse that simultaneously guides others away from danger and illuminates their way home to safety.</p>
<p><em>Hanukkah</em> is a time to re-dedicated oneself to whatever one feels is most important &#8211; and worth living, working, fighting, and if needed dying for. <em>Hanukkah</em> is a minor holiday with major meaning to anyone open to embracing it. </p>
<p>Wishing you, those you love, and those who love you, a <strong>Happy <em>Hanukkah</em>!</strong></p>
<p>Please share YOUR thoughts below &#8211; before reading what I wrote about <a href="http://orenpardes.com/happy-holidays">Happy Holidays</a>.</p>
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