Posted by Oren Pardes | Posted in Life, Relationships | Posted on 09-06-2011
Tags: authority, consistency, expertise, experts, help, influence, liking, message, messenger, reciprocity, scarcity, social proof
Are you an “expert” or “authority”? I’m NOT – even on what I think, how I feel, nor anything else I have experience with and/or continue to learn about. Whatever I post online is only an attempt to share one perspective of my perception at a particular time – with the hope that my interpretation may have some value and benefit for YOU by reading it.
Humans are influenced by many things, including perceptions of “Authority”. “Social proof”, “Scarcity”, “Reciprocity”, “Consistency”, and “Liking” also tend to influence most people (to one degree or another). To help me remember these 6, I made up the acronym “SCRALS” – but like many other “SLACRS“, I often don’t even influence myself enough to apply most of what I “know”.
Neither “awareness” nor “knowledge” has made me (feel) very “influential”. Perhaps others question my “expertise” or “authority” even more than I do. Either way, I encourage YOU to always consider the content, context, and meaning(s) of any message more the messenger. Style and social status seldom successfully substitute for substance, actual experience, or accuracy.
I seldom “challenge” or “assert” ideas simply to convince others that I am “right”, know “more” or “better”, or in order to gain “control” of anyone or anything – including myself. If what I write has value and benefit for others, I am pleased, but since I don’t know who may read my words or how they will interpret them, please consider what I write as just offering a glimpse into my thinking at the time that I posted. What you think, feel, or do after reading is not only up to you but completely beyond my control, and usually even awareness – unless you let me know. I’d welcome hearing from you.
I don’t seem to get many comments, e-mails, or phone calls about my blog – so I’m sometimes surprised when people I meet in person tell me that they read and like my online post(s). I would greatly appreciate a little feedback – to at least acknowledge that I am not writing merely for myself. The lack of response to previous posts is one reason I post so much less now. There are many possibilities for why readers may not comment – including not knowing how or not caring enough about what I wrote to do so. What about YOU?
Whether you agree, disagree, have a different opinion, don’t understand, or don’t yet know what to say, I’d still love to hear from you – preferably here.
Sometimes the best way to help ourselves is to help others (first). If I might somehow be of help to you – or you to me, please let me know. I may not be an “expert” or “authority” but I still might be able to offer you something of value if you allow me to. Perhaps you consider yourself more knowledgeable or experienced than I seem to be. If so, I especially welcome your input.
Some people have difficulty saying “No“. Others struggle with “I love you“. Many seem to have trouble with “I’m sorry“. For me, it is often hardest to admit, let alone say, “I need help” – and sometimes even harder to accept it when it is offered. Even just letting me know that YOU read this would mean a lot to me. It doesn’t necessarily take much to make a difference in someone’s life. You do not need to be an “expert” or “authority” to make a difference in mine – nor do I need to be an “expert” to be of service to YOU.
That’s my perspective. What’s yours?
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